Soul Care for Pastors
A bibliography of ways for churches to care for pastors and their families, and for pastors to care for themselves
General Soul Care
- "A Cloud of Witnesses"- the MWD podcast interviewing some of our more experienced pastors give counsel to the younger pastors
- The Book Your Pastor Wishes You Would Read, by Christopher Ash
- Boundaries - EFCA article on pastors setting healthy boundaries
- The Care of Souls: Cultivating A Pastor's Heart, by Harold Senkbell
- The Five Temptations of a CEO: A Leadership Fable, by Patrick Lencioni
- The Flourishing Pastor: Recovering the Lost Art of Shepherd Leadership, by our own Tom Nelson
- The Full Strength Network- safe, affordable coaching and counseling for ministry leaders
- Go the Distance Cohorts by the De Pree Center
- "How to Get the Rest You Need" by the Theology of Work Project
- "Learning to Rest: The Value of Nothing" from Lifeway Research
- ON It! A monthly online community meeting to work ON your ministry to be fruitful when you work IN your ministry
- Pandemic-weary Pastor - article by the Gospel Coalition
- The Pastor, by Eugene Peterson
- Pastoral Graces: Reflections on the Care of Souls by Lee Eclov - “for weary pastors needing a comforting arm around their shoulder”
- Pathways - Pastor training from the EFCA
- Resilient: Restoring Your Weary Soul in These Turbulent Times, by John Eldredge
- Resilient Ministry: What Pastors Told Us About Surviving and Thriving, by Burns, Chapman, and Guthrie
- The Resilient Pastor: How to Remain Effective and Finish Well in Ministry, by Bruce Garner and Gary McIntosh
- The Resilient Pastor: Leading Your Church in a Rapidly Changing World, by Glenn Packiam
- Reset: Living a Grace-Paced Life in a Burnout Culture by David Murray
- Sabbaticals: see section below
- SoulShepherding - resources to thrive in ministry and avoid burnout
- "10 Steps to Better Prepare Your Church to Respond to Trauma", by Lifeway Research
- Understanding the Wounded Heart, by Marcus Warner. Read about the Wound-Lie-Vow-Stronghold (WLVS) pattern of our hearts and finding healing.
- Victory in the Battle: Biblical Power for Purity, by Eric Douglass (Beacon Community EFC, Goddard, KS). Pamphlet available by request from Eric.
- "Why Taking Sabbath is Hard for Pastors" by Lifeway Research
- Retreat spots for pastors:
- Prairie Home - In Western Nebraska, hosted by our own Don and Nancy Cruise. Email Don at email@example.com.
- Quiet Waters - On Lake Wylie, outside of Charlotte, NC, hosted by former EFCA pastor Dan Johnston
- Sabbatical policies and principles - Pastor Tim Buhler has developed sabbatical resources that he's willing to share with pastors and churches in the MWD. Contact Colby for more information.
- "Why Your Pastor Needs a Sabbatical" - from Every Square Inch
- Sabbatical Guide from SoulShepherding
- "I Was Wrong About Rest" by Carlton Harris, Executive Vice President of National Ministries
- I highly recommend a minimum of 6 weeks, preferably 8-12. If God is going to do a work in the pastor, it will likely take 3 or 4 weeks to get to that point. You don't want the pastor coming back a week after being deconstructed by God.
- A sabbatical should (in my opinion) be taken all at once, not as a bunch of small extra vacation days.
- It's NOT a vacation. You normally can't get to the deep work of God in short break or vacation. Vacations have their own good purpose.
- Sabbaticals are as much for the wives as the pastors. Emphasize this and you'll get better buy-in.
- Sabbaticals of 8 weeks or more usually come at 7 years of service - some churches are as frequent as 5 years.
- Sabbaticals must be taken in a contiguous block - not a week here, 2 weeks there, then another week later
- Some churches shorten the time in between or lengthen the duration of sabbaticals with more years of service.
- Before booking any plans, the pastor should submit a sabbatical plan to the church leaders, who should review and perhaps modify the plans to fit the written policy and purposes.
- The church leaders should be the primary ones to communicate the sabbatical idea and plan to the congregation. This is something the elders are doing, not something the pastor finagled. They should reiterate several times that they are doing this for the good of the pastor, his wife, and the church. They should emphasize that this is not the same thing as a vacation. It's good to also mention that this is a common practice for churches and pastors.
- Sabbatical Metaphor for your church: It's like letting a field go fallow for a season - 1) It lets the soil rest; 2) It builds nutrients back into the soil; and 3) It gets rid of toxins. It's better for the farmer to let the field go fallow for a season, and it's better for the church to give the pastor a sabbatical for a season.
- Therefore, include in each sabbatical plan: mandatory rest, mandatory time for building up / learning / seminar / reading list, and mandatory extended solitude with God (individually and as a couple).
- A book-writing or sermon series planning "sabbatical" is a different kind of sabbatical. You might even choose a different name for something like that to keep the two ideas separate.
- You want a pastor to go on sabbatical before he needs to go on sabbatical.
- Many worry that a pastor or a church may decide during the sabbatical that they are no longer a good match. Don't let that deter you - if it takes a sabbatical to figure out you're not a good match, that's a good sabbatical.
- Sabbatical policies should be written and should apply to all pastoral staff.
- Make a sabbatical policy independent of the personality of the current pastor (unless you want to renegotiate the policy each time you call a pastor).
- When calling a new pastor, this is a good time to make sure you have a written policy that's up to date. Communicate it to a candidate as part of the benefits package.
- Some churches want the pastor to give the leaders and/or the congregation some kind of report of how the time was used and how it benefited him and his wife, plus how it benefits the church. Other churches don't want the pastor to have to feel like he's justifying what he did on sabbatical.
- Consider using sabbaticals to incentivize credentialing - a more generous sabbatical policy to those who have an EFCA license and even more for ordination.
- No pastor who has been on sabbatical needs to be convinced to go on another. (Not a scientific statement, but illustrates the point.)
There are plenty available just by searching the web, but here are a few:
- Kindred Spirits - retreats hosted by the Midwest District for pastors' wives
- Hope for the Wife of a Tired Pastor by the Gospel Coalition